I’m back I guess…
Not only did I delete all my blog posts back in June, but I haven’t been training at all. Unhappiness and loneliness is a bitch. I’ve kept up at the gym, but haven’t set foot in my Muay Thai/BJJ school. I’m not sure if or when I will start back at BJJ. I should be back to Muay Thai in a couple of weeks after school starts back up. With the kids back at a regular schedule, it will be much easier. As far as BJJ goes, I don’t know if I can make myself get back at it. I just hate the fact that I suck so hard. It seems like no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t improve.
I have been working a lot of overtime this summer. I had set a goal to get all my debt (minus mortgage and car payment) paid off by the end of August. It looks like I have succeeded. My final supplemental cheques won’t come until a couple of weeks of September, but the hours have been earned. I really only had 1 week off this summer. My wife and I arranged our schedules so that we were able to avoid paying for any daycare. That’s a big expense we avoided. It meant that we really didn’t get much time together as a family, but it will be worth it in the end I think.
Some fun news. Last week I finalized the booking of a trip to Whistler in December. There will be 10 of us going. I only know a couple of the guys, but I am still really looking forward to the trip. It’s been far too long since I skied at a real mountain. I even bought a new pair of skis in anticipation. LOL. I know it’s only August, but it was a heck of a deal that I couldn’t pass up.
Mountains to Mats 
You definitely won’t get better at bjj if you don’t go to class. Is there a reason you stick to that school? Maybe a fresh set of eyes on your technique could steer you in the right direction for where you need to improve.
Ya I know. I have grappled for a few years now with little success. I’m limited in school’s where I live. But also, I am friends with my coach. I teach Muay Thai there from time to time. There’s lots of reasons for me to stay. 🙂
Sparring is not my strong suit, in fact, i quite dislike it. I stay for the kata and drills. If you are friends with your coach, you should be able to approach him on a more personal level and discuss why you don’t think you are progressing, and exchange input without anyone getting their toes stepped on.
beckyinma +1
Put yourself out of your depth. Train and grapple with people better than you. Your skills will improve tenfold!
LOL. I do that every class. Everyone is better than me. 🙂 We only have a small group.
Ha I see. I can’t say I know a lot about BJJ I’ve only really do a bit of mma every couple of weeks but I have friends who have been professional all I can say is they live and breath it. Everything seems so second nature to them I guess it’s practice practice practice!
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Welcome back.
I had the same problem with kung fu but it was mainlynthe cost was getting way too high ,but great post keep it up
welcome back, thanks for stopping by and taking a moment to like – hope the Muay Thai is at least some part of normalcy for you! I too, miss BJJ … I wish I could find a school that had more women and better hours to fit my life! It is definitely an exercise that offers a rounded workout!
Welcome back! You’ve been missed!
Hi it sounds like you have had a really tough summer, working hard, opposite shifts, not seeing the family. It’s no wonder you are feeling a bit down. From the outside it looks like you have made a big investment for the future for your family though, clearing your debts and so on.. Now you have a solid base to move on from. Are you going to give yourself a break (from self criticism)? If you love BJJ are you going to give it another try? Sorry for being so direct. Julie
I haven’t decided about BJJ. Probably…
I have a hard time not criticizing myself because I don’t really like myself. I try though.
I am definately going to take a break from the extra work. It’s like a countdown is on. lol
Thanks for being direct. 🙂
Many congrats. Another quite direct comment. If you don’t love it, then don’t stick with it and find something you do. But if you’re just ditching BJJ because you’re not good at it, have a heart to heart with your friend/coach, discuss where and why your skills are not improving and come up with a game plan with clear and direct goals on a timeline. I assume you pay for the coaching, so why flush the money away when you clearly work hard for it. If you still don’t see progress, then consider spending some time at another school for a fresh viewpoint. Its never bad to work with different people, everyone has a different view and different ideas you may never have considered before and in the end its your choice to take or leave them based on what fits you. But worrying about offending your friend is a ridiculous excuse, either (s)he will understand and hope you bring some technique/idea back to improve his/her school in some way or this person is closed minded and you should move on anyways because closed minded doesn’t lead to growth.
Thanks. That’s great advice. 🙂
Getting your almost all your bills paid is so freeing. So much overtime can be stressful. I hope you take the time now to de-stress and recharge. Best wishes on your upcoming trip.
I hope you can reignite the passion! But if not no worries – there’s something else out there.
Glad to have you back!
I’m glad you liked my post on “Swords, Specters, & Stuff.” You’re welcome back anytime!
hey thanks for “liking” one of my posts.
you accomplished perserverance, determination, motivation, and realized a few goals. keep moving and focus on the positive of all (you did ) and will do. victories don’t have to be big 😉
Thanks for the like on my blog. Don’t be too hard on yourself, it will all work out exactly as it is supposed to. Hey, enjoy Whistler….was there in late spring. So much to see and do! Have a fun time!
I love the different game plans you put into effect to help you get out of debt. Awesome testimony!! Debt free is the place to be;-)
Great post Anthony! Very interesting.
I hope you enjoy your trip to Whistler in December, and well done for sorting for your debt, that’s a great achievement.